First let me start off by saying that the title of this post is absolutely stupid. Yeah i said it…stupid. If you actually thought i could teach you how to be pretty or give you some sort of tutorial on beauty, you are sadly mistaken.
When people try this hard to be pretty, it makes you stop and think, are they ugly? Is there even such a thing as being “ugly”? What if i told you i didn’t find Channing Tatum, Rihanna, or Zayne Malik attractive? You’d think i was mad. Well sorry to break it to you, but i don’t. I think they are ugly, but are they really?
I think beauty is all about preferences. What i find beautiful may be different from what my friends find beautiful. Well i know its a lot different because of their millions of judgmental comments on the type of guys i go for. I like what i like and i cant change that.
The point of me saying this is because of the multitude of girls out there going around questioning whether they are pretty or not. One girl asked “how do i know if my boyfriend is really attracted to me?”. I scrunched my eyebrows at that question because it truly confused me. The answer i gave her–now that i look back on it–was sort of mean but true. I said “Because he’s with you. No one dates people they think are ugly; they say they would but they wouldn’t. So he finds something attractive about your appearance, even if you are ugly.” I have no idea why i said that, but oddly enough my advice helped her.
I’m not saying people don’t look at the deeper parts of another person, because a lot of people do. On the other hand, you cant see what’s on the inside from a first glance. Most people have to find that other person somewhat attractive to go and see whats inside.
My preference as a black female is more on the caucasian side, so black males aren’t usually my type. When it comes to black males, there are a handful of them i like and will give my attention to. If you don’t want to admit that you do this, then you don’t have to, but subconsciously everyone does it.
You cant let someone else’s preference get you thinking that you aren’t beautiful though. Girls–and guys– think down on themselves because they don’t look like “this girl” or “that guy”. To be frank with you, that girl you admire so much, probably doesn’t even really look the way she does–on social media– in real life.
Love you for the way you are. Trust me other people love it too. Don’t try to be something you’re not. You aren’t ugly and don’t try so hard to be pretty either, just be you. You are beautiful just the way you are.