Advice, love, Relationships

Friend Zoned?

Putting your heart out there is not the easiest thing to do. It’s like throwing your fishing rod out into still waters waiting for expecting fish to catch your line. When you find that one person that makes your heart stutter and your arm pits sweaty, not knowing whether or not they like you back is a gut wrenching feeling. Your best friend in the entire world, the one person you want to go to when the world kicks you down more and more each day–how can you not fall in love with that?

I know when i first moved here in Kentucky, i made two friends my first day of school. One being a girl–Maddie– and the other a guy–Brandon. We became really close friends to the point that we could tell each other anything and everything and we did. He shared with me the deepest parts of his life and i was pretty flattered that he had trusted me that much. I knew he liked me. Before he even said anything about it, i knew he had some feelings towards me.

I could have cut it off as soon as i saw it, but for some reason i didn’t. That moment right there was when he was officially friend zoned. I remember this one guy i had a crush on asking me if Brandon and i were a thing and i was honestly shocked that he would assume that, but thinking back on it, i can see now why he would think that.

We were always hanging out, hugging, and his flirting was pretty much obvious to everyone even the martians above. First it was little compliments here or there and then he progressed with touching–placing a hand on my thigh or grabbing my wrist. One day he literally grabbed my arm and pulled me down onto his lap. Then there was another time when he was sitting on my lap.

There are many many instances where a girl or guy has no idea that their best friend has a crush or is in love with them. Then there are people who know and just let it go on and on, which was a shitty thing for me to do, but i honestly didn’t know what to do at the time. It was honestly the first time it ever happened to me and it’s usually the other way around.

In my opinion there is really no way out of the friend zone, unless you are in the following circumstance. Guys lets say you are really in love with this girl and you just feel like she see’s you as nothing more than a brother, and girls let say you are super into this guy who you think only see’s you as his bff.  I think the key word in this scenario is “think”.  You think that this is this and that is that, but you never actually asked.

Those instances right there are the exception. She has feelings for him, he has feelings for her, but they are to scared to say anything to one another, because of the risk of ruining the friendship if the other doesn’t feel the same way. BUT THEY DO!!! I guess believing that your friendship is strong enough to withstand anything is the most important thing when pursuing something more.

A good thing to remember is to not let the feelings of another person crush you. If he or she doesn’t like you, its not their fault and you cant blame them for how they feel. Just move on to the next and be their for your friend like you’ve always been.

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